Which comes first? Do we reach for love and fall into loneliness or does loneliness follow our failed attempts at loving? With the divorce rate at 50% of all marriages and the statistics of Americans who acknowledge episodes and even chronic feelings of loneliness at 53 Million, a serious, and more importantly, spiritual approach to learning the hidden dynamics of both love and loneliness has high value for everyone.
Speaking on just that subject, Kabbalist, and Life Coach, Eliyahu Jian, is blunt and to the point: “Buying another dog, another cat, another bird will not solve the problem. If you are yearning for true love you are yearning for connection to another HUMAN BEING”.
You can fool yourself if you assume such a statement addresses only singles. Dead marriages where two people quietly coexist is more common than we want to admit. Eliyahu explains: “Loneliness seeps in when we get tired of giving, tired of sharing, Why do we get tired of giving? We lose the energy to love. We give up. Ultimately, we can be in a grave outside the grave with deaden feelings and entrenched self absorption. And then we wonder why we are trapped in a feeling of loneliness. How do we allow that to happened? It’s a sliding scale. Love on one end and loneliness on the other Yet it is in Love, the Zohar tells us, where we find the secret of divine Unity. We begin by loving ourselves”.
Vital Transformations serves as an oasis where the root of not only loneliness, but the replanting of deep roots to conquer the self sabotaging destroyers of a loving nature can be revealed and nurtured. Such roots are best tended by spiritual principles. Now more than ever it is vital to move beyond the warm and fuzzy self help learning that can perpetuate itself into a never ending cycle of self-absorption. Vital Transformations’ upcoming course Love & Loneliness put you on a path to find avenues to awaken the deep cry of the soul for genuine connection.
The ancient text of the Zohar, from which the most potent spiritual principles spring from, reveals the blueprint for mankind to truly bring Heaven on Earth. It was hidden for over 2000 years. Why? Mankind was not ready to understand its secrets or its answers with its far-reaching implications until modern kabbalists had the courage to take it out of the hands of those who wanted to keep it secret; and put it in the hands of men and women of all cultures and backgrounds at a time that it was truly meant for. And that time is today!
It was Kabbalist Rav Ashlag who in the 20th century understood the time had come to unleash the power of the Zohar and make it available for everyone, so that even children could learn how to mirror the upper worlds where love is rooted in unity and empowered by love and awe of the creator.
Vital Transformations is eager to teach those willing to embark on the responsibility to be agents of change how they can not only redeem their own lives, but teach others how to redeem theirs. Finding lasting fulfilment, based on timeless principles sounds lofty and impractical until you meet someone like Eliyahu Jian, a no nonsense, common sense practitioner of just such ancient tools found in the Zohar. Finding a safe haven where one can strip away useless defense of the ego to connect to genuine empowerment of one’s soul is not always easy to find. So those who come across the path of Eliyahu Jian and his wife Debbie Jian are discovering life changing tools and community connections that enable such a transformative experience. The heart of the matter for kabbalists like Eliyahu Jian is igniting within the heart what is already there, the capacity for genuine love with tools that strip away the desire to receive for the self alone and connect us to the source of true wisdom that leads to a unity with the creator.
As it says in the Zohar, volume Mishpatim:
“It is in the heart of the wise that I have placed wisdom. Wisdom, intelligence and knowledge are in the heart. And the fruits of a heart transformed in nature springs forth joy and love that can endure and erase every tear. To groom a heart to be fit for wisdom may sound too lofty a goal for many, but for those who are ready, a good beginning is with courses like Love & Loneliness. For those ready to begin the journey of discovery to live with love as your soul’s purpose, can begin by testing out courses at Vital Transformation designed for that purpose! Are we willing to love, if not why not? Eliyahu is adamant when he says: “The practice of love has to be with another human being”. His challenge to students is to begin to examine our resolve to love wholly and whole heartedly.
What keeps most of us away from the challenge to examine our relationships or lack of them can come down to just feeling trapped in our loneliness so we do nothing. At a recent class on Love & Loneliness Eliyahu explains: Lonely people attract other lonely people. Or worse, we love our things so much we don’t want others to come into our lives for fear of their using our stuff, or making it theirs! Have you ever asked yourself, “What is the benefit I are getting from being alone?” No one facing loneliness can run from the answer. If you are experiencing loneliness and it isn’t because of the grief of loss of a loved one, it’s time to recognize I am choosing lonilessness. Love of life, love of people is about creating a habit of desire for dialogue with another. Love pulls you to become more!
Love pulls you to become more!! Are you ready to see what your love is made of? Connect to Vital Transformation where you will find the perfect springboard to dive deep and navigate a sure path to making it a love that lasts.
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